Friday, March 7, 2014

Rebuttal #1: CJ Did NOT Start "The Gosselin Wars"

(Was originally planning to insert a bazillion comments/tweets here promoting the hater meme that *I* began the blog wars/twitter wars etc. online concerning the arguments about the Gosselin Family...I've screengrabbed them but this post is long enough already! I'll drag them out of storage if needed--CJ)

No, that happened long before I joined the Facebook "TLC "Kate Plus 8" Fan Page" sometime around the end of August/beginning of September, 2010. We had just come back from a very stressful 5 week long trip to India with 2 babies and a preteen. I had gotten ill and lost 26 lbs...came home to learn my beloved 14 year old cat Moose was dying of kidney failure (he died in early August, 2 weeks after we got home)...I wanted something to distract me from my grief so when I checked my Facebook home page one day and there was an "So and so liked TLC "Kate Plus 8" Fan Page!" So I thought, oh yeah, the show about all the kids, I remember watching that a long time ago! And hearing about the Gosselin's divorce the year before, I thought, oh, good, the show is still on, wonder how big the kids are now? So I clicked the "Like" button out of curiosity--and a journey began that I never could have anticipated happening in real life.

I lurked on the page for a short while, to get the feel for the new site. I remember being really shocked at the attacks against Kate Gosselin, the kids' mom, for a multitude of 'sins'--"Fake boobs!" cried several posters. "Fake teeth!" cried others, still others "Fake hair! Fake nails! Fake tummy tuck!" (still not sure how one fakes a tummy tuck but you get the idea). There where also rants against the dad on the show, Jon Gosselin, for sleeping with women years younger than him and spending their money on drugs and smoking and wearing Ed Hardy shirts and hosting Playboy bunny parties or something...I remember thinking, WOW, that's not how I remember that couple! They seemed so real on the series "Jon & Kate Plus 8" in the early years! I did some googling and found some 'hate' blogs dedicated to tearing down these two people, found other blogs correcting misinformation from the hate was pretty wild to read some of the history about people like "Penn Mommy" who was supposedly a fan volunteering at the Gosselin home with the babies, who was dishing out unflattering gossip about Kate and Jon (mostly Kate)--only come to find out, the 'volunteer' lived thousands of miles away in California! Started learning the players who were pretty hard core in their hate of the couple (although now Kate is the sole recipient for the most part since Jon somehow achieved sainthood status in their eyes, go figure)...I remember my first post on the FB page was along the lines of "I don't care if Kate has fake hair, nails, tan, boobs, etc. What's important are the kids, who seem to be very well taken care of and as far as I know, they've never been removed from Kate's custody! :-)"

Little did I know that my OPINION of the situation would enrage some of the 'haters' as I learned they were called (or Khaters=Kate haters) so much so that to this day several are still MY "enemies" because of those early FB days! I had been on the internet since 1994, learned about USENET groups from my husband back then who participated in some political groups and a cat group or two since we had young Moose who had a few behavior problems--when we learned we were dealing with infertility problems, he found some support groups on USENET for me to join to get information and some point he stopped participating in his groups, but I was pretty active for the next dozen years or so. I also found some soap opera/science fiction/scrapbooking/crafts groups I enjoyed on USENET as well. In between I had become politically active as well, becoming a member of one of the largest conservative websites online called So I had a lot of practice dealing with groups online, as well as the occasional 'flame wars' and 'trolls' who would pop in to cause problems. I learned how to speak up for myself in self-defense, and how to defend others who were being unjustly attacked for their opinions/beliefs. It was a good thing I had that background because otherwise what happened to me after becoming involved in the "Gosselin Wars" would have totally sideswiped me and thrown me for a loop! But more on that as more rebuttal posts are made!

Today the haters are on Twitter (and a handful of hate blogs dedicated to hating on Kate and her kids), having moved from Facebook (where Kate did not participate) to Twitter, which she joined after her show was cancelled after a successful 7 year run on cable tv. Surprisingly, when Kate joined she began tweeting back and forth with various fans/supporters (folks like me who didn't follow each and every episode like the haters do, but supported her as a fellow mom who had similar problems/victories/worries in everyday life), much to the consternation of the haters. I was fortunate to be included in that group...not that Kate and I are BFFs, or whatever, LOL. A tweet here and there, not really any big deal, but these haters? They deny it but so much of their behavior boils down to plain. old. jealousy. Nothing more.

Much has happened since that time, and I and my family have been attacked so many times I don't know where to begin, but for sure, I, "CJ" as I am known online, did NOT start the attacks by any means. I mean to clear that up here, and future posts will clarify the truth about various other 'memes' i.e. LIES told about me so often even the haters believe they are true after all these years!

After my first comment posted, I was attacked/belittled by what seemed to be a small group of regulars on the FB nickname online for many years was 'whodunit' and when I signed up for FB it wanted a first name so I gave my initials-"CJ"--combined "CJWhodunit". The haters assumed immediately that I was a fake account or 'sockpuppet'/'sock' of one of the regulars who defended Kate/Jon/fans! Of course I wasn't but in hindsight I can see why they thought that, although I didn't personally attack ANY of them. I made it clear I was myself and I didn't 'sock', and I tried to use humor to get through to them because I have made friends online with other folks who had different opinions than me, and in my naivete I thought that would happen here.

It didn't. There were snarks, I would snark back. Attacks on folks who became online friends, I would counter with defending them from the attacks--never with cursing or nasty language, trying to use common sense but it was like beating my head against the desk. Back then FB had discussion boards where folks could create a topic and discuss it, many times the haters (or 'cupcakes' as they were called on FB, I believe because instead of actually having decent discussions with others, the haters would start discussing cupcake recipes, candy, etc.). I remember at times being so aggravated by their juvenile attempts to ridicule others, I would respond by copying their posts, posting definitions, etc. to get their goats, LOL. Didn't work, they'd keep on keeping on with their hating.)

At some point there was a 'truce' where everyone promised to play nice with each other. I made the dumbest decision of my life when I was convinced to change my FB name of "CJWhodunit" to my real name (several high school friends had tried to reach me but couldn't find me under my nickname so I thought, killing two birds with one stone! Everyone is happy!)--hoo boy, I couldn't have been more mistaken, shaking my head here remembering.

Behind the scenes, the haters began investigating me on Google (and from other resources available at a car dealership? I've always wondered), especially a woman named Kristine Jensen, who worked as a receptionist at a car dealership. My first indication that the 'truce' had gone bad was when someone exposed the haters in an incident that came to be known as "Code Red"--basically, the haters created a sock of a young woman named "Emma" who was supposedly pregnant with triplets...who had signed up on the FB to get advice from Kate Gosselin on how to deal with multiples.

Only problem was--EMMA WASN'T REAL.


(In a later version I received, Melanie Clarkson had deactivated her account by then once exposed, so her avatar and name are missing from the screengrabs.)

 Several other haters join the conversation where they are mocking fans/Kate, etc. At one point Aimee Giles suggests calling the police on a fan's daughter's wedding reception and claiming DRUGS are being dealt! The other haters laugh with her, then this interesting conversation which is pertinent to what happened to ME personally as time went on:

 There are many more screengrabs of these people discussing ruining other peoples' LIVES with absolutely NO scruples whatsoever, absolutely incredible to read still after all these years!
Soon, the conversation mentions ME--mind you, I *NEVER* had a hidden conversation about ANYONE in the hater crowd at this point in time:

Remember, that last blank picture on the screengrab is MELANIE CLARKSON of SYDNEY, AUSTRALIA. That is pertinent to what happened to me and my husband and our family in real life later on.

More chitchat, then...

 Hmmm. No, "Carolyne is attacking people and calling them terrible names and saying terrible things
!" but "CJ is obsessed with posting "positives" on the site tonight"???

Ah, at last my 'crimes' are mentioned! I SAID POSITIVE THINGS.

Wait, what?!

Yes, I 'annoyed' these haters because...I said positive things and defended myself, Kate, her children, and others on the FB "Kate Plus 8" Fan Page.

Shaking my head here.

But wait! There's more!

The truce dissolved once people learned that they were being messed with royally ("Emma" had a miscarriage and some folks actually wanted to take up a collection to help her pay for the baby's funeral! Unreal!)

So, I and many others blocked the lot of them. And the whining you just would NOT believe. Oh, my gosh, these haters would freak out if you blocked them! They just couldn't stand it and to this day they can't stand it. My new friends and I were enjoying relative peacefulness because while these haters were still spewing their nastiness all over the page, we who had blocked them couldn't see it, and that was very nice indeed.

But like I said, the haters couldn't.stand.being.blocked.

So like little children they devised ways to get our attention. I learned that by logging out of FB and then looking up the page, I could see the full set of comments from everyone...and as "Hope", a young college student warned me before she went her own way due to the personal attacks on her by these haters, they were up to no good, commenting in some sort of 'code'--so I logged out to check what she was referring to...and saw Kristine Jensen and Melanie Clarkson and others using numbers/locations etc. of various things from MY life--my house number, my birthday in number form, etc.--chatting back and forth releasing more and more bits & pieces about my private life...

...which of course I know now is considered public since it can be found online on the White Pages, etc. but back then I didn't know and I was TERRIFIED of Kristine Jensen releasing my address where God knew who could come to my house and try to break in or worse! Little did I I unblocked Kristine Jensen and invited her to a PM/'private message', sort of FB email.  This is how that conversation went:

 Am I the only one who feels a threatening undertone from Kristine Jensen in this exchange??

 And so, it becomes pretty clear that nope, I, "CJ", did NOT start this mess online. It started LONG before I ever liked the Facebook "TLC "Kate Plus 8" Fan Page" and was dragged into the Gosselin war mess online...

More rebuttals to come.

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Coming Soon: "The Rebuttals" Series

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I am finally able to exercise my First Amendment Right to Free Speech as an American citizen here on this blog after more than a year of being silenced by unconstitutional attacks against me. I have been publicly accused of many things over the past 4 years, the majority of which are nothing more than a tissue of LIES. Therefore, coming soon, a series of posts which will be rebuttals of those accusations, including the classic hater memes of "CJ bashes babies on their deathbeds!!!" and "CJ hacked into our bank accounts and credit card accounts!!!" and "CJ has NEVER been correct in figuring out who is really behind the socks attacking her!!!" (winks at Lora Lusher :-) and "CJ bashed my kid and hurt his feelings so I'm going to tell the whoppers of ALL whoppers I've ever told!" and oh, so many others. "Naming names and kicking butt" is the phrase, I believe! ;-) Of course, everything will be documented, as I always do. And finally,

Thursday, January 2, 2014

2014: New Year, New Beginnings

     I had thought I'd post about the legal stuff happening here, but I have been advised to hold off on that. I *can* tell you I have had several 'guardian angels' in the background helping us out, and since one has graciously given me permission to do this, I'd like to share a little bit of our holiday season with y'all. :-)

     You know him as "Captien/Captain Obvious" on Twitter, unfortunately due to threats against him and his family I can't reveal real names or locations, so please forgive me that. Suffice to say, there have been allegations that "Captain" (CO) and "Bullyville/James McGibney" are the same person--no. I've spoken with James on the phone, and I have met CO and I can tell you they are NOT the same person. :-)

     With that out of the way!

     CO & family kindly invited us over for a holiday meal, and the offer was accepted. First off, wow!! Their home is in an older neighborhood, so wonderful mature trees EVERYWHERE (we have 'teenager' trees, LOL)...the house is absolutely gorgeously painted and decorated (some of the breakable art pieces worried me a little but no problems) although on the 'tour' through there are still more renovations being planned...Mrs. CO (should I call her "SallyInga"?? LOLOL) went all out for us (muchly appreciated! :-) and the house was immaculate and furnished like a model home for a new subdivision! :-) Wish I could show you all some pictures but CO says folks could actually use info from images to track him & family down :-( but let me tell you, granite countertops and a beautiful fireplace that looked to go about 20 ft up in the formal living room area, lots of windows there overlooking the swimming pool and spa in the back yard--yes, there's *really* a swimming pool there, at night it was lit up and the glow was spectacular on the landscaping and features outside. Sadly it was a bit too cold to hang out there but we've been promised when the weather warms up my kids are welcome to come over for a playdate with the youngest COs and have a swim party! They are looking forward to that! ;-)

     Guys love to talk tech talk and sports (just how much can people complain about the Dallas Cowboys, LOL??), so Mrs. CO spent more time getting to know each other better--the short visits before are usually interrupted by my younger attention seeking twins but snacks will keep them busy for a few minutes! ;-) Big sister couldn't make it due to prior plans with her friends but maybe next time! 

     We were really impressed with the study, built in bookshelves, a beautiful room and desk and a fireplace (love it!) that is CO's business office. Very nice open floor plan downstairs where you can move from room to room easily (as their cats did following us around, LOL).

     The dining room was seriously house glamour magazine ready :-) with some of the most beautiful place settings I've ever seen...colors were green, silver and cream--just absolutely beautiful! The pictures below don't do them justice, especially when the candles were lighted...There were lots of sterling silver pieces from the flatware, plate chargers, candlesticks, serving pieces, etc. I asked Mrs. CO how did she find the time to clean it all and learned a great fast easy way to clean silver.  (1) Get a large glass pan or ceramic baking dish and place a piece of foil at the bottom shiny side up, (2) sprinkle a couple tablespoons of baking soda on the foil, (4) pour boiling water into the pat dissolving the baking soda, (5) immerse the silver pieces into the hot water making sure they touch the foil, the tarnish literally disappears before your eyes,  and then (6) Rinse off to remove any baking soda residue and polish with a soft dry cloth. Ta da! No harsh chemicals! I only have a few pieces of silver at home, can't wait to try this on them! :-)

Mrs. CO's gorgeous china & silver place settings, lovely!

The floral centerpiece was perfect for the table, in white/cream/greens.

    Mrs. CO was such a gracious hostess, she totally reminded me in some ways of the 1950's tv wives who would fix dinner in a beautiful dress, high heels and pearls (though she's not as old as those ladies were, LOL). Apparently they entertain business contacts frequently so she has hostessing down pat! She wore this lovely amethyst raw silk jacket that totally matched the ring CO gave her...and believe me, that is NOT a cheap piece of jewelry! Again pics don't do it justice, very lovely combination! :-) I felt a bit underdressed but they made us feel very comfortable and welcome and we're looking forward to not only visiting them again, but having them over for a homemade Indian dinner sometime soon! DH is a pretty good cook (but don't ask his mom, LOLOL!) and I think the CO's would enjoy it, although kids might want the food less spicy! ;-)

Note to self: Remember to give DH those lessons in clear picture taking!
Speaking of spicy, Mrs. CO served some homemade traditional Tex-Mex dishes, and the chicken enchiladas were my favorites! Reminds me, I need to get that recipe from her, I watched her prepare some of it while we enjoyed some white wine (I don't usually drink wine but that tasted very nice without making me feel tipsy! ;-) and the kids did their kids thing. Love how kids can become best friends so quickly after just a few meetings! They entertain themselves after that! ;-)

Anyhow, thank you again CO and Mrs. CO for a very lovely evening, and may we return the favor soon! They say good things can come from bad, and that is sooooo true! If I hadn't had to deal with all these hater things the past few years, God would have never sent these 'guardian angels' like CO our way to help us out for no other reason than the kindness of their hearts. :*)

I’ve been grateful for the work that James and CO and Faux and others have done behind the scenes to prove my innocence, and ensure the police here know who the ~real~ stalkers/lawbreakers are and what they’ve done.  I think 2014 will be a great year and I can finally breath a sign of relief that the truth will be out there for everyone to see first hand. :-)
Cheers! To 2014 and new friends! :-)

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Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Merry Christmas 2013!

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Another year has passed, so quickly it seems! :-) Hard to believe 2014 is right around the corner--and along with it comes New Year's resolutions! I'll be going for the same 3 resolutions of past years: 1)Get to 24Hr Fitness more often to exercise; 2) lose weight and get healthier, and 3) stop biting my nails, my worst habit of all, LOL. Wondering what kind of wonderful blessings God has in store for me in 2014? Looking forward to finding out! :-)

My Christmas wish and New Year's prayer for you is for God to bless all of you and your families abundantly with good health, prosperity, and the pursuit of happiness, whatever yours may be! :-)

Wanna share your Christmas wishes and New Year's resolutions in the comments below? Feel free to discuss to your heart's content, or discuss anything else (within reason, and following my few rules, ie watch the cussing & personal attacks on other posters)! And don't forget the Reason for the Season: the Birth of the Christ Child, sent to save us all. :*)

Sunday, November 3, 2013

Open Discussion

There's so much happening right now, wish I had more time to write in detail, but I wanted to at least put up a new post and say hi to everyone! :-)

This is an open discussion post, anything goes--within reason. No cussin', no going after specific people and attackin' them--that's basically it as far as rules go. As I said, lots going on right now I can't talk about (under advisement) BUT that doesn't mean y'all can't talk amongst yourselves! :-)

So have at it!

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Sunday, September 15, 2013

BOO! It's Time For Halloween!! Wait, WHAT???

I am not believing all the stores putting out Halloween stuff THIS early, 6-7 weeks or so before the ACTUAL end of OCTOBER!!! What on earth???

Did I somehow miss the end of summer and beginning of AUTUMN?? This is nuts! (I know, I know, the economy is tanking and businesses are trying to keep afloat, but come on!!)
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Speaking of nuts, does anyone have any updates on the Bullyville lawsuits? I've been so busy moving furniture and kids' bedrooms around here that I haven't kept up with things like I should have!

Please feel free to post any news/info/rumors etc. here, and we'll see if we can't verify or discount what y'all have heard!

Don't forget to play nice, no nasty words here please, yada, yada, yada! Don't make me go all hobgoblin-y on offenders!

As usual, ANYONE (even folks who's opinions I vehemently oppose) is welcome to comment here  as long as they are respectful of other posters. I don't like blocking people unless I absolutely have to!

Oh, and by the way?
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y'all! ;-)

Monday, August 5, 2013

It's That Time Of Year Again! :-)

Yes, when the pitter patter of little feet will be heard at school all day instead of at home!

Don't get me wrong, I love having my 3 kids around throughout the day BUT there are chores to
get done and projects to finish, and when my kids say, "Mom, come play Candyland with me!!"
for the zillionth time--well, I can't resist, and things get put on hold until later in the day/evening...and then there's not very much "me" time in the long run!

Lots of transitions this year, the twins are beginning full day kindergarten, and Tweenie is moving
up to the middle school! She applied for the yearbook staff and got in, so she has some workshops
to attend before school starts...she's so excited!  I was on the yearbook (and newspaper) staffs in high school and college, so much has changed since then! Back then 'pasting up a story to be printed' was literally that--using very sharp scissors, rubber cement and a typewriter to hand type and justify your text, LOL. Nowadays, a simple smartphone can do all that in no time at all! :-)

Of course, I'm ready to volunteer at the school again--guess that should be schoolS, haven't been able to help too much for a few years, looking forward to helping our teachers out any way I can again! And from a teacher's point of view, cutting out a few shapes from construction paper or helping organizing folders with info to go home may not seem like a big deal to you when you volunteer, but believe me, it *is* and every little bit of help is GREATLY appreciated! :-)

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How about you?
Are you moms/dads looking forward to the new school year?
What kind of plans do you have for when the kids are gone?

Myself, I'm going to finally have time to go back to 24Hour Fitness on a regular basis and get back in shape...working on losing the rest of this weight as well! We played tennis on vacation a few weeks ago and I'd forgotten how much fun that is! :-) Also hoping to FINALLY finish so many projects around the house and for the house now that there will be time to work uninterrupted and actually get things finished, LOL.

How about you teachers out there? You ready to jump back in again? I still remember the excitement when I was teaching full-time: getting my classroom prepared, lessons plans set up, trying to memorize kids' names ahead of time, looking for that *just* right activity for that most important first few minutes when you either grab the class's attention or lose it for the year (kids are smart, they size you up immediately, LOL!)--and that awesome feeling of everything pulling together and working out perfectly on the first day of school! :-)

Gosh, sometimes I really, really miss being a teacher! But I thank God many times a day for finally
letting me be a mom and getting to have these experiences with my kiddos that so many others take for granted! And I get to start the "BooHoo Breakfasts" again with my twins! The school offers the parents a nice little breakfast here the first day of school to get past the 'boo hoos' of your babies' milestones! :*) :*) :*)

BTW, doesn't that apple look delicious??

 PS: Y'all know the rules for my 'classroom' here. Follow them and no one goes to time out or loses their recess! ;-)